Helping
Middle Schoolers Connect
with Their Future Parent
Spot for Parents of Middle School Students
As a parent of a
middle schooler, you know that the middle years are no academic
cake-walk. An expanded roster of challenging courses and tests can
produce a fair amount of pressure at a time when kids don't always
feel like focusing on school work.
From an adult
perspective, we understand there is a lot riding on how well kids
learn their lessons now: Future coursework will be easier
to tackle, they're
more likely to meet state academic requirements, they'll have a
better chance of earning scholarships to defray the cost of higher
learning, and ultimately they will improve their chances of getting
a satisfying job.
Unfortunately,
most of these life goals are too far off to be meaningful to the
average middle schooler - kids don't really have the foresight to
truly understand that failing a math course now might affect their
ability to pass the Math A Regents (a requirement of all students)
in high school or that it could ultimately close off a whole lot of
career choices to them.
Knowing that the
middle years are important academic stepping stones, how do you help
spark your children's interest in learning and help them understand
the rewards of doing well or the penalties of slacking off? We all
know lecturing is futile. Kids are likely to tune you out or they
might become rebellious and stop applying themselves altogether.
So what does
work? Here is what some parents, teachers and guidance counselors
recommend:
Tap into
their interests.
Learning doesn't have to be drudgery. However, the difference
seems to be whether or not kids find their classroom work
meaningful to their day-to-day lives. One parent said that her
7th grader has applied his mathematics skills to his love of
baseball - he figures professional players' statistics and also
uses it to chart his own athletic growth. Her other son, an 8th
grader who she describes as a kid who "doesn't seem as sure
about where all of his learning is going to get him,"
recently discovered through an interest inventory that he had an
aptitude for a career in truck driving. After doing some
research on-line with her son, they found that truck drivers
need to keep accurate logs of where they've traveled. Now her
son is learning to keep logs and in the process is honing his
organizational skills. He has also tied what he's learned about
truck driving to his social studies curriculum. He can now see
how learning to read maps could be applied to something he might
do in the future.
Though some
children have clear interests, there are many others who have
yet to find their niche. Taking an interest inventory (a series
of questions designed to determine interests, strengths and
weaknesses) can be helpful. Volunteerism and service projects
are also good ways for kids to explore what they are passionate
about. Talk with your child's guidance for more information
about these resources.
Help
them develop a more global perspective.
For children to see the applicability of what they are learning,
they have to be able to look beyond themselves at the larger
world. You can help by subscribing to local newspapers, setting
news sites as the home page on the family computer and talking
with your children about relevant current events. You can also
watch movies together that deal with current events or other
historical topics (the local library is a great resource for
these types of recorded materials).
Expose
them to future career possibilities.
Take them to work with you and let them learn about the basic
skills you draw on when you do your job. If, for example, they
express an interest in writing, talk with them about the vast
number of ways that people can use their writing both for
pleasure (poetry, short stories) as well as profit (journalism,
editing, writing books for children, etc.) At this U.S. Bureau
of Labor Statistics web page, kids can explore careers that
relate to their various school subjects:
Use
older siblings or family friends as role models, but resist the
temptation to compare, particularly if they are struggling
academically.
Rather than trying to explain with words how a high school or
college curriculum relates to middle school lessons, point to
the projects, daily coursework and tests that older children are
tackling. If feasible, have your children work at their homework
together so that the younger ones can see for themselves what
future academics are like. This type of sibling mentoring can be
an effective, real-life means of showing the relationship
between dedication to schoolwork now and success in the
not-too-distant future.
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